Let THEM - Reclaiming Our Freedom and Power

In this episode of The Empowered Adoptee Podcast, we dive into Mel Robbins’ Let Them Theory and explore how this simple yet radical mindset shift can be deeply liberating for adoptees.

As adoptees, many of us grew up hyper-aware of other people’s emotions, expectations, and needs. We learned early how to adapt, people-please, stay quiet, or shape-shift in order to feel safe, loved, or accepted. Over time, this can leave us disconnected from ourselves, our boundaries, and our truth.

The Let Them Theory offers a powerful reframe:
👉 Let them think what they think.
👉 Let them feel what they feel.
👉 Let them do what they’re going to do.

And then, we choose ourselves.

In this episode, we share personally from our own adoptee journeys and unpack how “letting them” has helped us:

• Release the pressure to be understood, approved of, or validated
• Step out of fear, obligation, and guilt (F.O.G.)
• Build healthier boundaries without shame
• Practice deeper self-acceptance and self-trust
• Reclaim our energy for healing, rest, and joy

We also explore how Let Them doesn’t mean bypassing emotions or disconnecting - it means allowing others to have their experience without abandoning ourselves in the process.

This conversation is especially meaningful for adoptees navigating:

• Complicated family dynamics
• People-pleasing patterns
• Feeling responsible for others’ emotions
• The desire to be “good,” grateful, or easy

At its core, this episode is an invitation to soften, to come home to yourself, and to remember that your needs, boundaries, and truth matter.

✨ You don’t need permission to live your life.
 ✨ You don’t need to explain your healing.
 ✨ You are allowed to choose peace.

If this episode resonates, we invite you to listen with curiosity and compassion and maybe ask yourself:
Where in my life am I ready to let them… and choose me instead?

Your story matters. If you’d like to connect or share your adoptee journey, we’d be honored to hear from you.

Email us at: hello@theempoweredadoptee.com